Separation and divorce.

[Dermot]

Case got heard - midday - 4pm in the High Court and adjourned until today. We settled it late last night however. The result is a huge blow financially, but it should be survivable.

I hope to be able to keep the Escort, but will be signing over my home and garage.

I'll be laying low for a bit - need to take all this in and reflect on it all.

[Groupcracer]

Dermot,

I've been through this and yes it's a bad thing financially and will take time to recover from in that sense but what it will do is allow to "heal" and focus on you.
The old saying time heals all is spot on in this case.

By the looks of it you've got support from the Rallyesport fraternity and you should take that support as a first step and find a new path in life.

It WILL get better and you will never look back.

Let's face you've got guys on the other side of the world putting a metaphorical arm around your shoulders.

Chin up and remember what monty python always say....

Derek

[Dermot]

Time for an update for anyone who is interested:-

I moved house a few weeks ago. I thought it would be difficult but it wasn't. I'd lost interest in the old house, and needed to move on on several levels.

I'm now living in Lahinch, Co. Clare - right by the sea, and about a 50 minute drive to work. Communications are good so I'm commuting every other day. I've done a lot of work to upgrade and update the place here, and so far so good. It's very comfortable. It's a good spot - a small village I know well for years, with a fantastic world class links golf course where I'm lucky enough to be a member. Some good bars within 4 mins walk too. It's a summer place and I'm under no illusions about how harsh the winter might be. I've no mortgage and no debts. The house here is 100% paid for. Visitors welcome btw.

The RS2000 is in a huge industrial unit a couple of miles away, and I've easy access to it. Infact I'm hoping to buy a motorbike to keep it company (see other thread just started).

The kids love it here, and are in good form too.

I'm disappointed not to be able get to The Lakes Tour but it was never on the cards this year.

There are still a few issues to be tidied up domestically, but the big stuff is now done. It took years and cost a small fortune, but that couldn't be helped.

Onwards and upwards!

[alancdavis]

Positive attitude,,,,,well done

[graham John]

Time for an update for anyone who is interested:-

I moved house a few weeks ago. I thought it would be difficult but it wasn't. I'd lost interest in the old house, and needed to move on on several levels.

I'm now living in Lahinch, Co. Clare - right by the sea, and about a 50 minute drive to work. Communications are good so I'm commuting every other day. I've done a lot of work to upgrade and update the place here, and so far so good. It's very comfortable. It's a good spot - a small village I know well for years, with a fantastic world class links golf course where I'm lucky enough to be a member. Some good bars within 4 mins walk too. It's a summer place and I'm under no illusions about how harsh the winter might be. I've no mortgage and no debts. The house here is 100% paid for. Visitors welcome btw.

The RS2000 is in a huge industrial unit a couple of miles away, and I've easy access to it. Infact I'm hoping to buy a motorbike to keep it company (see other thread just started).

The kids love it here, and are in good form too.

I'm disappointed not to be able get to The Lakes Tour but it was never on the cards this year.

There are still a few issues to be tidied up domestically, but the big stuff is now done. It took years and cost a small fortune, but that couldn't be helped.

Onwards and upwards!

the company i work for recently opened a depot in Galway, and i fly into Shannon quite a bit, i am guessing the Golf club is Doonbeg.

tis a lovely part of the world, good access to the rallying there also


glad its worked out ok for you Dermot


cheeRS

[Dermot]

Golf course is Lahinch G.C. Graham. I could walk there in about 10 minutes!

Thanks for the encouraging feedback folks. Greatly appreciated.

[fox2fox]

Enjoy your life now!!!!!!!.....

Hope things have all worked out for you,my brother recently went through a divorce last year,not good,he's lost almost everything,lives in a small shitty house now,but he's happy,sees all 3 kids,as he said start of a new life,hope you can start a new life and enjoy it now onwards and upwards,best of luck.

[Aaron P.]

good news for you dermot...glad to hear your kids are happy as its more about them than you in all of this.......glad you got to keep the escort and that things are on the up....the leash that was tied around your neck is now gone.....hope things stay positive for you now...get out n do some surfing

[vinny]

glad things are on the up for you m8
sounds lovely where you are

[pushrod]

Sounds like you have well and truely turned a corner.
Good to hear things are working out.

[wiggyrs]

Glad things have worked out for you Dermot

[jimmer]

Well done Dermot.
All the best, Jimmer

[Dobbo63]

went thruogh all this shite 14 years ago. ex said been hitting her and stuff. more like her belting me . didnt see my 3 girls for 5 years because she poisend there minds, that was hard ill tell you, more so when i found out my eldest had got married 3 year before.
any way to the present and pleased to say girls back in touch in last few year and see 2 of them every week and the oldest when she,s up here visiting as her in hubby in RAF at oadiham wilts , fly.s chinooks.
like anyone whos been through a divirce i could write a book on what i went through, but one day you turn a corner and life gets better, and now i am happily married to my soul mate.

[driverace]

Divorce

Glad to hear you are more or less sorted Dermot . Onwards and upwards,life goes on .My ex told my kids that I was a "Kelly" (Like the toy that you knock over,and it bounces back up),even though i was taken to the cleaners by her,i worked my bo**ocks off working long hours to have a fantastic life now with my current partner of 35 years.
it can only get better!!!

[KelvinS1965]

Yeah, I've been there, bought the tee shirt 14 years ago and now I'm settled with a new partner and a Son I never thought I'd have. So good luck to you and I hope things work out for you as well as they have for me.