Separation and divorce.

[Dermot]

Anyone been through it?

I'm in the early stages and am in the horrors. The toughest thing I've ever had to deal with.

[alladdin]

only advice i can give.... just smile and agree... keep it sweet otherwise your solicitor is having another hol in the sun next year ! best luck

[RabC-RS2-77]

YEAH !
be the biggest two faced lie'ing bas~~rd,
you've ever bn just to keep the bitch sweet,
or you'll find she'll get her own back on you
through you not seeing your kids at the times you want to see them.
(thats if you've got kids).

plus get out with your mates again, round town.
she'll hate that, lol...

[topaz]

[RabC-RS2-77]

pmsl @ topaz,
(it took me 18 months to get the sodding remote for the portable tv)...

[Dave1800BDA]

Anyone been through it?

I'm in the early stages and am in the horrors. The toughest thing I've ever had to deal with.

be strong Dermot, havent been through it so i cant comment, all the best to you


pmsl at topaz

[Kel]

Been there.

I hope children arent invoved.

I had to fight for access. Some things work in this country.
(took me 5 years to get proper access, until I just snappend and took the EX to court), 1 year on... 1000 times better.

BTW I never used a solicitor, did it all myself with just a few advice chats with Citizens Advice Bureau

[VICKYG]

good luck ... Not been there and hopefully wont be going there .All i can say is chin up and try and be as diplomatic as possible and dont let the lawyers bully you in to anything check all the legal facts before signing anything to make sure there's know come back on anything for your ex to claim after the divorce is finalised as i'v heard this happening to people.

I know its hard but try and be as nice to your ex through this awful time as that will get to her more as she will be looking for a battel , try and get the divorce as quickly as possible as the longer you go on battling the less you walk away with and the more the lawyers get.

One of my friends got divorced and ended up with only £1000 each out of £80000 as all the done was argued all the time who was getting what and the lawyers were laughing as they got mostly all the money.

If you have kids try and not argue in front of them as it will be hard enough for them you's getting a divorce.

GOOD LUCK


vic-rs ( vickyg )

[RabC-RS2-77]

if there is kids involved !
i found these to be helpful...

http://www.cafcass.gov.uk/

[grum]

seems the solicitors make the money - £100 a letter for example - know someone at the mo going through it and it aint good - just drags on if you dont keep ontop of it and abreast of the situation

[Troll]

ummm I going thru it aswell, started the whole divorce thing 2 years ago then me and the wife agreed to stop and leave it for the magic 2 year seperation, much easier. meanwhile we sold the house and split it all 50/50 ( no kids involved luckerly).

Now 2 years is over maybe we will get round to finally divorcing, luckerly we are not at each others throats...

Dermot it will get better once its over and you may then meet the girl of yr dreams :-)

Mark

[Dermot]

We have 2 young kids, which complicates things sadly. I'll provide for them, as they are my main concern now. I expect to see them frequently and that shouldn't be an issue.

It's relatively civil, no lawyers are involved and we are trying to hammer out a deal to separate.

There was no abuse of any kind, nor 3rd parties involved. We just drifted apart over a couple of years, and couldn't fix it, despite trying pretty much everything.

[Frosticles]

sorry to hear this dermot, have no experience of this but i hope it all works out well for you.

[ders]

Hi Dermot,
I went through a divorce 6 years ago. Best advice i can give is not to deal with everything at once. Deal with one thing...sort it out fully then move on to the next. Eventually the problems get less and less..and you see light at the end of the tunnel.
I have moved on since and have never been happier..so keep your chin up and stay positive.
All the best.

cheeRS Ders.

[Dermot]

Makes a lot of sense Ders. Thanks.